Entering your 30s or 40s as a woman or a mom can be daunting. You may have given a lot of yourself to others or your children in the previous years. It can be hard to consider what your needs are and what you would like to take up as a new hobby or new skill. We can get out of the habit of thinking how to use our free time and that we should value it as our own and make it a priority.

I know when I've been asked before what my interests are; it's not always easy to come up with a list of hobbies after I've thought about the people I look after and what they all enjoy. Also when I see people talk about this on social media I think I don't have any free time! However, we all spend an incredible about of hours scrolling, texting and emailing. Is all of that really necessary? Or could you find a great hobby that uses your time in the best way for you and your mental health?

We are sure you can do this, so where to begin? A great way to find what might suit you is to check out what other women or moms are doing. Chances are there's someone out there just like you and what works for them could be your hobby idea or even a side hustle!

I've created a list of fun hobbies and new things which might interest you, so you don't even have to make time for it. Don't think too hard on this. If you don't want to leave your comfort zone and learn to do magic tricks that's fine! The key is to find what makes you happy even if that's a night in with a good book. So have a read and give these a try!

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Whatever gets you moving

Even if you are not normally active, finding something you can do which moves your body is so important. This affects our moods, how happy we feel, our identity, and much more. Whatever you do find an exercise to suit you. From running, dancing, to tennis or boxercise, even a long walk is a great exercise, focus on what makes you feel buzzing afterwards. I always find it helps to do it first thing in the morning after the school run.

Enjoying the fresh air while you workout is a great mood booster. Playing tennis is perfect as you keep fit, get outdoors and there’s a social aspect to it. Make sure you have all the right equipment before starting a sport such as buying the correct tennis shoes for women from a store such as tennisHQ.co.uk.

Depending on your exercise of choice, you can also do it listening to music, a podcast, (my favourite thing) or focus on the sounds of nature. If I haven't run for a while I go back to the app 'Couch to 5k', it's so helpful to follow their instructions rather than try and pace myself!

Playing games

Playing is something that we generally don't think is important as adults, but we couldn't be more wrong. This pastime relaxes us and provides a means of escape. Think about what you loved in high school? Or even when you were younger? Additionally, engaging in social card games like Spades can enhance these benefits by fostering connections and camaraderie among players, further enriching the experience and promoting strategic teamwork.

Board games and online gaming is becoming more popular for all ages after the past 2 years of staying home and keeping safe. Stress levels were higher and understandably new people have flocked to play games both with their families and online.

I've had a real nostalgia for playing the classic video games we grew up with such as Bubble Shooter, Solitaire, Pacman and the Hearts card game. These are so simple and less taxing than some of the games produced today. Playing them online (often for free) means you can easily fit in a game between work or home life. While I’m playing, I can only concentrate on this and it takes my mind off the day to day pressures of modern life.

My husband has taken up online chess during the pandemic and is completely hooked. Again he can fit in a match between other activities but then he feels like he also did something pleasurable for himself.

Learn a new language

Have you always promised yourself you would learn a language? In the new world of Skype and Zoom lessons are everywhere. Even if travel is only just opening up we can still travel in our imagination. Finally, get to grips with that schoolgirl French or start Spanish as it's the next big thing! Either way, if you're willing, there's a course or an app to help you.

Prioritise your mental health

I neglect this part of me so much and I've found that anything which isn't actively managed in your mental health creeps into your physical. So use your free time in a new way and have a goal to look after yourself.

Having a journal is an easy way to start. You can note down how you feel each day, your thoughts, and your feelings.

Even sending short ‘Stories about my life’ to friends and family can be therapeutic and is a great way to remember what you’ve been up to. This creates greater self-awareness and deeper connections over time.

I choose to use a gratitude journal and it dramatically changes how I feel about my week. You can do these online or treat yourself to some beautifully bound notebooks.

Vegetable gardens

There are so many benefits to doing some gardening. Fresh air, carrying out tasks using your hands, which frees up your mind. You're surrounded by nature, noticing the seasons and being present in the moment.

There's a great sense of satisfaction in growing and nurturing things. It's up to you what you plant, however, I get the most out of making a vegetable or herb garden. You share the fruits of your labour with others, maybe the herbs go into your next pasta sauce. The cycle of sowing, growing, and eating is a wonderful part of life.

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Take an online course

Have you always loved Interior design? Did you ever consider that some passion of yours could be studied more fully? Just because you're an adult doesn't mean you can't learn a new skill or even make some extra money.

There are courses widely available on every topic you can imagine now. Most can be done online around your current commitments. Maybe this could be the moment you choose to take a course and change your career? Or perhaps it could set you up for when your children go to school and you can take a full-time job? Should you wish to of course.

Courses are available through companies such as Udemy and Teachable but there are many more places to find them. Start following the hashtags of topics that interest you on Instagram and you will find others sharing their knowledge.

You’d be surprised by the amount of courses you can do online. The PMHNP online programs allow you to pursue a master’s degree in nursing, for example. The world is your oyster with this approach and you could end up launching a new career with the process.

Going from a hobby to a new career may seem unbelievable, but it’s more straightforward than you could think.

Jewelry making

This is something I love to do. I have a friend who runs jewelry workshops but we live too far from each other now. I found her classes so calming. You sit and chat to other women, work on your pieces with help from your instructor. Drink lots of coffee and then marvel that you managed to come up with something you would actually wear.

I always go home happy. Look up jewelry designers or silversmiths in your area, often they run similar classes or day experiences.

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Volunteer

If you get the most from giving back think about the causes closest to your heart. Charities and food banks are always struggling for help, unfortunately. If you can give one morning of your time they are very grateful. If it's more furry friends you are interested in, contact your local animal shelter. Many pets bought in lockdown have been returned to shelters and they are at full capacity. Your time and help will be sorely needed.

Volunteering is a wonderful way for women to make a positive impact in their communities and beyond. Here are some volunteering opportunities that may be of interest to women:

1. Women's Shelters and Support Centers: Volunteer at local women's shelters or organizations that provide support and resources for women facing domestic violence, homelessness, or other challenging circumstances. You can offer emotional support, assist with practical needs, or organize activities to empower and uplift women.

2. Mentorship and Coaching: Volunteer as a mentor or coach for young girls or women who may benefit from guidance and support. This could involve career mentoring, educational support, or personal development mentorship programs.

3. Women's Empowerment Organizations: Get involved with organizations that focus on women's empowerment, gender equality, and advocacy for women's rights. You can participate in awareness campaigns, fundraising activities, or volunteer to support their initiatives.

4. Girls' Education and Youth Programs: Volunteer with programs that promote girls' education, leadership development, and empowerment. Help provide educational support, mentorship, or organize workshops and activities to inspire and empower young girls.

5. Women's Health Initiatives: Volunteer with organizations that focus on women's health issues, such as reproductive health, breast cancer awareness, or mental health support. You can help raise awareness, offer support at health clinics or hospitals, or participate in fundraising events.

6. Elderly Care: Volunteer at nursing homes, senior centers, or organizations that provide services to elderly women. You can offer companionship, assist with activities, or help organize events to enhance the well-being and quality of life for older women.

7. Community Development: Engage in community development projects that benefit women and families. This could involve organizing community events, promoting education and awareness, or participating in initiatives related to women's economic empowerment and entrepreneurship.

8. Crisis Hotlines and Helplines: Volunteer as a hotline operator or helpline support for organizations that provide assistance and resources to women in crisis situations. You can offer a listening ear, provide information, and connect women to appropriate services.

9. Environmental and Sustainability Initiatives: Volunteer for environmental organizations that promote sustainable practices and raise awareness about climate change. Women's involvement in these efforts is crucial for building a more sustainable future for generations to come.

10. International Aid and Development: Consider volunteering for international organizations focused on women's empowerment and development in different parts of the world. You can contribute to projects related to education, healthcare, income generation, or other areas that uplift women and their communities.

Remember to research and connect with reputable organizations that align with your interests and values. Volunteering allows women to make a meaningful difference and create positive change in the lives of others.

More ideas

Some of you have asked for more ideas, so as a mom myself I've done some research.

Moms often have busy schedules balancing their family responsibilities, career, and personal life. However, it's essential to find time for hobbies that bring joy and relaxation. Here are some hobbies that moms in their 30s or 40s might enjoy:

1. Fitness and Exercise: Engage in activities like yoga, pilates, running, cycling, or joining group fitness classes. These hobbies promote physical well-being and provide an outlet for stress relief.

2. Cooking and Baking: Explore new recipes, experiment with different cuisines, and try your hand at baking. It can be a creative outlet and a way to provide nourishing meals for your family.

3. Gardening: Cultivate a green thumb and create a beautiful garden space. Grow flowers, herbs, or even a vegetable garden. Gardening can be therapeutic and a source of pride as you witness the growth and beauty of your plants.

4. Arts and Crafts: Explore your artistic side through hobbies like painting, drawing, pottery, knitting, or sewing. These creative activities allow you to express yourself and create something beautiful.

5. Reading: Dive into a good book and escape into different worlds. Join a book club to connect with other book enthusiasts and engage in discussions about literature.

6. Photography: Capture precious moments by taking up photography. Whether it's with a DSLR camera or your smartphone, document your family's memories and improve your photography skills.

7. Writing and Journaling: Start a blog, write in a journal, or explore creative writing. It can be a therapeutic outlet for self-expression and reflection.

8. Music: Learn to play a musical instrument or join a local choir. Music can be a source of relaxation and joy.

9. Volunteer Work: Engage in community service or volunteer for causes that you are passionate about. It's a rewarding way to give back and make a positive impact.

10. DIY Projects: Take on do-it-yourself (DIY) projects around the house, such as home decor, refurbishing furniture, or crafting. It can be a fulfilling way to personalize your living space.

What works for me

Cross stitch: I’ve just started trying cross stitch after receiving a pattern for Christmas. Cross stitch is a wonderful hobby that can be enjoyed by people of all ages and skill levels. It offers a creative outlet and a way to create beautiful, handmade designs. Here are some steps to get started with cross stitch:

Gather Supplies: To start cross stitching, you'll need a few basic supplies. These include:
Aida fabric: This fabric has evenly spaced holes that make it easy to stitch on. Choose a fabric with a suitable count, such as 14-count or 16-count, which refers to the number of stitches per inch.
Embroidery hoop or frame: This helps keep the fabric taut and makes stitching easier.
Embroidery floss: Choose a variety of colors that you'll use for stitching. Floss typically comes in six-strand skeins, and you can separate the strands depending on the thickness you want.
Embroidery needles: Select needles with a sharp point and a large enough eye to accommodate the floss.
Scissors: Use small, sharp scissors for cutting floss and trimming threads.

2. Choose a Pattern: Look for cross stitch patterns that appeal to you. There are countless patterns available online or in craft stores, ranging from simple designs to intricate artwork. You can start with a small and straightforward pattern as you build your skills.

3. Prepare the Fabric: Cut the fabric slightly larger than the desired finished size. If necessary, finish the edges by folding and stitching or using a fray-check solution to prevent fraying.

4. Follow the Pattern: Transfer the pattern onto the fabric using one of several methods. You can use a water-soluble pen or pencil to trace the design or use a technique called "counted cross stitch," where you follow a grid and stitch according to the pattern's instructions.

5. Start Stitching: Thread your needle with a strand of embroidery floss, and tie a knot at the end. Begin stitching by making small, diagonal stitches that form an "X." Follow the pattern, working one color at a time and completing each stitch before moving on to the next.

6. Finishing: Once you've completed the stitching, trim any excess fabric and iron the finished piece on the reverse side to remove any creases or wrinkles.

7. Frame or Display: You can frame your completed cross stitch in a hoop, mount it on a board, or choose other creative display options, such as stitching it onto a pillow, tote bag, or clothing item.

Take your time, be patient with yourself, and have fun with the process. As you gain experience, you can explore more complex designs and techniques. Happy stitching!

Remember, hobbies should be enjoyable and allow you to recharge and pursue your interests. Find activities that align with your passions and bring a sense of fulfillment, even if you can only dedicate small pockets of time to them.

Adult Coloring Books

Adult coloring books have gained popularity as a creative and therapeutic activity for relaxation and stress relief. Here's some information about adult coloring books and how to get started:

1. Benefits of Adult Coloring Books: Coloring can have various positive effects on mental well-being. It can help reduce stress, promote mindfulness and focus, enhance creativity, and provide a calming and meditative experience. Many people find coloring to be a soothing and enjoyable way to unwind and engage in a screen-free activity.

2. Choosing a Coloring Book: There is a wide range of adult coloring books available, catering to different interests and preferences. You can find books with intricate designs, mandalas, animals, nature themes, inspirational quotes, and much more. Explore different styles and themes to find one that resonates with you.

3. Coloring Tools: Invest in a set of high-quality colored pencils, markers, or gel pens for your coloring projects. Experiment with different coloring mediums to see which ones you prefer. Colored pencils are a popular choice as they allow for shading and blending, but markers and gel pens can provide vibrant and bold colors.

4. Setting the Mood: Create a relaxing environment to enjoy your coloring sessions. Find a quiet and comfortable space with good lighting. You might also consider playing soft music, lighting candles, or using essential oils to enhance the calming atmosphere.

5. Coloring Techniques: There are no strict rules when it comes to coloring. You can follow the design as it is or use your imagination to add your unique touches. Experiment with different coloring techniques, such as shading, blending colors, or using different patterns and textures.

6. Take Your Time: Coloring is meant to be a leisurely activity, so take your time and enjoy the process. Allow yourself to be fully present and immerse yourself in the colors and patterns. Focus on the soothing and repetitive motion of coloring.

7. Personalize and Frame: Once you've completed a coloring page, you can personalize it further by adding your own embellishments or highlights. If you're particularly proud of your work, consider framing it and displaying it as a piece of art.

8. Join a Coloring Community: Connect with other coloring enthusiasts by joining online coloring communities or attending local coloring groups. Sharing your work and seeing the creations of others can be inspiring and provide a sense of camaraderie.

Adult coloring books are a form of self-expression and relaxation. There are no right or wrong ways to color, so embrace your creativity and enjoy the therapeutic benefits that coloring can bring.

Join a Membership Group

Joining a membership group can be a great way to connect with like-minded individuals, pursue shared interests, and access exclusive benefits. Sometimes it's easier not to be doing something alone. I've joined several groups in the last few years and really enjoyed being part of them. Here are some steps to consider when joining a membership group:

1. Identify Your Interests: Start by identifying your specific interests or hobbies. Whether it's a professional field, a recreational activity, a social cause, or a personal development area, find a membership group that aligns with your passions.

2. Research Membership Groups: Look for membership groups or organizations that cater to your interests. Use online search engines, social media platforms, and relevant directories to explore different options. Consider factors such as the group's mission, values, activities, events, and benefits offered to members.

3. Evaluate Membership Benefits: Assess the benefits that come with joining each group. These may include access to resources, exclusive events or workshops, networking opportunities, discounts on products or services, publications, mentorship programs, or online communities. Consider which benefits are most valuable to you and align with your goals.

4. Read Reviews and Testimonials: Before committing to a membership group, read reviews and testimonials from current or past members. This can give you insights into the group's reputation, member experiences, and the value they received from their membership.

5. Attend Events or Meetings: If possible, attend an event or meeting organized by the group before joining. This will give you an opportunity to meet current members, experience the group's dynamics, and determine if it feels like a good fit for you.

6. Understand Membership Requirements: Familiarize yourself with the membership requirements, such as eligibility criteria, fees, renewal processes, and any commitments or obligations expected from members. Ensure that you are comfortable with these requirements before joining.

7. Connect with Current Members: If possible, reach out to current members of the group to ask questions or seek further information. Their insights can provide a deeper understanding of the group's activities, community, and overall experience.

8. Join and Engage: Once you've decided on a membership group, follow the application process and join the group. Take an active role in participating in group activities, attending events, and engaging with other members. This will maximize the benefits of your membership and help you build meaningful connections.

Membership groups provide opportunities for personal growth, learning, and networking. Choose a group that resonates with your interests, values, and goals, and be an active and engaged member to make the most of your membership experience.

Start your own business

Starting a business as a stay-at-home mom can be an exciting and fulfilling venture. It allows you to pursue your passions, contribute to the family's income, and have the flexibility to balance work and family life. Here are some steps to consider when starting a business as a stay-at-home mom:

1. Identify Your Skills and Interests: Begin by identifying your skills, knowledge, and interests. Consider what you are passionate about and what you excel at. This will help you choose a business idea that aligns with your strengths.

2. Research Business Ideas: Explore various business ideas that can be pursued from home. Consider your skills, market demand, competition, and potential profitability. Look for ideas that fit your schedule, resources, and lifestyle as a stay-at-home mom.

3. Develop a Business Plan: Create a business plan that outlines your business idea, target market, products or services, pricing, marketing strategies, and financial projections. A business plan will serve as a roadmap for your business and help you stay focused.

4. Consider Your Schedule and Resources: Assess your available time and resources as a stay-at-home mom. Determine how much time you can allocate to your business and identify the resources, such as equipment, software, or support, that you may need.

5. Set Up Your Home Office: Create a dedicated space in your home where you can work and run your business. Organize your workspace, ensure you have the necessary equipment, and establish a routine that allows you to work efficiently.

6. Legal and Financial Considerations: Determine the legal structure of your business (e.g., sole proprietorship, LLC) and register your business with the appropriate authorities. Set up a separate bank account for your business finances to keep them separate from personal finances.

7. Market Your Business: Develop a marketing strategy to promote your business. Utilize social media platforms, create a website or online presence, network with others in your industry, and leverage word-of-mouth marketing. Identify your target audience and tailor your marketing efforts accordingly.

8. Time Management and Work-Life Balance: As a stay-at-home mom, it's essential to manage your time effectively and find a balance between your business and family responsibilities. Prioritize tasks, create a schedule, and set boundaries to ensure you have dedicated time for both.

9. Seek Support and Resources: Connect with other entrepreneurs, join networking groups, or seek mentorship to gain support and learn from others who have gone through a similar journey. Utilize online resources, workshops, and courses to enhance your business skills and knowledge.

10. Adapt and Evolve: Stay open to feedback, adapt to changes in the market, and continuously improve your business. As a stay-at-home mom, your circumstances and priorities may evolve, so be flexible and willing to make adjustments to your business as needed.

Starting a business as stay at home moms requires dedication, perseverance, and a willingness to learn and grow. With proper planning and a passion for your chosen venture, you can create a successful business that allows you to balance your family life and professional aspirations.

I hope you've realised that there are so many new hobbies you could be trying. Many more than I've mentioned here, I hope you begin focusing on yourself and find the perfect one for you. If all of that is too much trouble maybe take up wine tasting classes with a friend!

If in doubt, some of my favorite hobbies include trying an online tutorial for something totally new like playing a musical instrument, having a go on sewing machines or even just searching "great hobbies" over on the internet where you'll find youtube videos to help you choose the right hobby for your creative outlet! The best thing about it is that trying out worthwhile hobbies can be so much fun.